Good bye

Xaikayla 2006-01-09 13:08:15 ET I have just recieved news that a woman I have known most of my life passed away last night. I haven't spoken to her in the last few years. She was diagnosed with breast cancer and she and her husband drooped out of sight. They decided to combat the cancer with holistic therepy. I haven't seen her since she was diagnosed. They dropped out of sight, sold their house, camped in several places all over California. They did this because her husband came up against arguements from family on their chosen method of treatment. Today, I have recieved my first phone call about her. I have inquired in the past about her condition.. her location, only to get the same report... "Well last we heard she was camping in... (pick a spot) still on the same treatment." Today The phone call told me only that she has died. I still don't know where she is. No one has details about her husband, about memorial plans. And I just never got to say goodbye.

Autumn Solstice 2006-01-09 13:41:31 ET i can relate to the situation....last year the woman who lived next door to us for my entire life passed...she helped take care of me when i was little and was basically a serragate mother for me and my sisters...she was family...she passed of lung cancer just weeks after her diagnosis..she went down at home and was taken to the hospital where she passed within a couple of hours...because of the field i am in i was asked to consult with her and the family after they got 2 conflicting responses from doctors on the possiblility of surgery before she passed...i had to tell her, her husband, and her children that she was going to die...surgery would not help her...3 days later she was dead... no matter how it happens loss is painfull..but not saying goodbye can haunt you for the rest of your life...my condolences on your loss

lackeyboy 2006-01-09 17:03:47 ET Damn. I'm terribly sorry to hear. Seems people are passing on all over the place (this is the third TODAY I've read about on SK)

prophetsam 2006-01-13 10:32:49 ET UI'm sorry to hear that. It's terrible that they had to go to such extremes just to deal with their trauma the way they saw fit. I sincerly hope you get the information you desire. ..and remember, it's never too late to say your goodbyes and make peace with someone who's passed. Think it, Sincerely mean it, and it is done.

Xaikayla 2006-01-13 10:39:02 ET She is a woman I danced with. Others in the company (now dibanded) are trying to get together and dance for her memorial service. I am really hoping to be there.

prophetsam 2006-01-13 11:18:24 ET That sounds like a wonderful idea...

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