and the boredom kicks in

Antipathy 2005-06-16 14:01:21 ET so being unemployed and out of school have been great thus far.. im getting more sleep than ever!! which i am still very excited about. but i am lacking that cashflow that i desparately need .. ahh poop. on another topic, is it moving too fast if you get married to a guy you've been dating for 3 years?

You Dont Know Jake 2005-06-16 14:31:38 ET totally not too fast. after 3 years i'd be ready to shit or get off the pot.

Winter 2005-06-16 15:39:02 ET Not at all. Under a year would be too soon. Granted, I dated my husband for 9 years before we married, but hey. ;) 3 years is just right.

dirtyaussie 2005-06-16 16:10:35 ET Hell no!!! I married my wife in just under a year... If you know, you know. I don't think that there is any right time. As long as you have weathered a few storms and know that he is going to be someone that won't just run away. That is the key. If it is all blue sky and rainbows all the time, then you don't really get a test of someone's character. We went through some hard hard times, and she stood by me. I knew that she was someone that I wanted in my life, then I knew that she was someone that I could count on, and we decided to get married.

klemmy 2005-06-17 01:37:55 ET i agree completely with Aussie. it's all relative in time. i'm marrying Lacey and it's only been 11 months together. but they've been wonderful enough that i've said, alright, i love you, and every day with u by my side is a pretty damn good idea. this entry somehow reminds me of an old Oscar Wilde epigram, "It is not us men who choose to marry women, it is them who choose us."

Antipathy 2005-06-17 15:23:20 ET well, me and james have been together for a little over 3 yrs and we have been through perfect times and horrible times and even a few breakups, but we've been going strong and happy for almost the past 2 years. im more than ready to marry him.. with all my heart, but he thinks that we're moving too quickly and that if we marry "too soon" we'll get a divorce..

Winter 2005-06-17 18:51:55 ET Hmmm. That's a tough call.

dirtyaussie 2005-06-18 02:58:49 ET If he is not ready, I think that you have to give him time and discuss his concerns with him. 3 years, in my mind is not quickly, but hell, maybe I am some sort of deviant romantic. Anyway, maybe you should discuss his concerns with him calmly and rationally. Also, what is his family background, were his parents divorced?

Antipathy 2005-06-18 06:28:48 ET well, i have been discussing this with him, trying to get his side of all of this, i mean i in no way will force him into something he doesnt wanna do. yes, his parents are divorced. but they werent together for too long before getting married (my parents are divorced as well, they only dated for 8 months) i have already calmed him on one matter, i told him that just coz we get married doesnt mean we have to have kids right away.

klemmy 2005-06-18 08:10:14 ET then u must wait till the thing pops out of his belly. no, wait, u're not cooking a turkey...;) seriously though, u'll just have to wait then.

Antipathy 2005-06-19 17:23:01 ET haha, ya i know. i wish it was as easy as waiting for a little thingy to pop out like a turkey...

klemmy 2005-06-19 17:29:55 ET u'd be like YAY!!! and James would be like, NO NO!! It's umm faulty!

Antipathy 2005-06-19 17:39:19 ET hahahaha... man you dont know how true that is!

klemmy 2005-06-19 17:44:41 ET he'd be trying to duct tape over it...or push it back in with a screwdriver... ;)

Antipathy 2005-06-19 17:57:34 ET hahaha

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